In Love? Be So!

LOVE! Seems to be a really strong word. A word with a lot of depth and an equally strong meaning. Love has various relationships attached to it. It can be parental love, love between two friends, sibling love, love for one’s pet, anything and everything to call it. And all of these relationships are eternally pure. Being in love and living up to it, is considered a task. Like literally! But why so? Isn't love supposed to be a simple, usual feeling?! Which is just meant to be felt! Of course opinions differ. Every single person in this universe has a different perception about love. Past experiences and expectations lead to these perceptions. Nothing right or wrong in it. Because at the end, it is how and what you feel for a person. And that is what really matters.

In this fast pace life that we live, some of us tend to follow the trend of “variety is the spice of life”. Which involves dating every other person possible in the name of “love”. Isn't that an insult to the whole idea of love? It’s like fooling your own self rather than anybody in this world. And fooling oneself can be the most horrible thing one can do.

The kind of love that I would like to speak about is the love between two individuals. Not that I know a lot about love or I can define it that I am dedicating a whole blog post to it but something that I genuinely felt like expressing and sharing. To me, love is just caring for someone in a whole special way. Having this little soft corner for a person and cherishing it in the manner that we have not done for anybody else.  What I have specifically heard is that, love is hard. I don’t know why people tag it to be hard and hurting. It is such a beautiful feeling. It’s like just one single person has the ability to take you to this whole new happy space still making you realize about the reality of life. Also what I think is, you can’t just fall in love. It is a process. Honestly, according to me, this ‘love at first sight’ is a crap! You can’t just fall for someone. I mean you can have a crush or by far just like someone on seeing them for the first time. But can’t fall in love with them. Loving someone means accepting them with all their faults and wounds. Trusting and having faith. We can only love a person when we get to know them. If we say that we love someone, we should have the ability and strength to stick to them through every given situation. Because life is not easy. It’s like supporting that one person through thick and thin, loving them and nurturing the bond that is shared with them. Showcasing your love to the world for that special someone is not at all necessary, but making that one person feel special and loved is all that is needed. Having said that, I don’t mean that love is a child’s play. Not at all. When two people come together, fights and misunderstandings are ought to come up. Everything can’t be good and happy all the time. If that’s the case, then it’s superficial. But resolving those fights and understanding each other makes the bond of love stronger.

So, if you think you found that person of love then I think you should keep them for life. Because, if love is not the best feeling, I don’t know what is?!

Being Judgmental? DON’T BE!

Judging someone? Spare a minute and think of the fact that the opposite person might be doing the same about you and the way you might feel when that same person voices out his thoughts. Scary? It sometimes is. Knowing, unknowingly we become so self-centered and start judging people as if we own the whole right of it. But trust me it is not a very good thing to indulge in as not all of us are cool enough to take the comments and judgments positively when they are concerned about us.

The worst aspect of being judgmental is that we comment about things which we are partially or completely unaware of. I mean, what’s the whole deal about judging something that we don’t even know about? And the funny part is, we are the first one’s to judge someone or a situation but when people judge us, we get all offensive. Is it even legit enough to do so?! This is the question we should ask ourselves before judging anything.

More often than not people try to judge a person and try to question his/her character. Why to do such a pity act when we have better things to do in life? Is our life so boring or are we so freaking jobless?! And if at all we judge a person why is that most of the times only negative comments are passed about a person. Why can’t it be the other way round? Why can’t we try to understand that person’s situation and help him/her in some way.

To be very honest even I have been judgmental towards people and situations, for innumerable times. To the extent of even abusing them. But when the reality hit me and same thing came back to me I realized the seriousness of it. And it hit me so hard that I quit this horrible habit of JUDGING. In a recent conversation with a friend, what I realized is that we tend to judge others just because their behavior towards us changes completely ignoring the fact that we once knew the same person very well. We also judge people or situations by what people tells us which is basically being influenced. And being influenced is a sign of how dumb we can be. I have read this somewhere – Each one of us is fighting a battle. And according to me it’s to the point. Each one is surely fighting a battle within or with the people around. And if we stop judging it might lessen the efforts required for the whole “battle”.

The end result of all this is, and what I would like to convey is that before passing a judgment about something or someone we should try and understand how and why is it that thing the way it is. It would surely make our life peaceful and way better for the people living around us!