Being Judgmental? DON’T BE!

Judging someone? Spare a minute and think of the fact that the opposite person might be doing the same about you and the way you might feel when that same person voices out his thoughts. Scary? It sometimes is. Knowing, unknowingly we become so self-centered and start judging people as if we own the whole right of it. But trust me it is not a very good thing to indulge in as not all of us are cool enough to take the comments and judgments positively when they are concerned about us.

The worst aspect of being judgmental is that we comment about things which we are partially or completely unaware of. I mean, what’s the whole deal about judging something that we don’t even know about? And the funny part is, we are the first one’s to judge someone or a situation but when people judge us, we get all offensive. Is it even legit enough to do so?! This is the question we should ask ourselves before judging anything.

More often than not people try to judge a person and try to question his/her character. Why to do such a pity act when we have better things to do in life? Is our life so boring or are we so freaking jobless?! And if at all we judge a person why is that most of the times only negative comments are passed about a person. Why can’t it be the other way round? Why can’t we try to understand that person’s situation and help him/her in some way.

To be very honest even I have been judgmental towards people and situations, for innumerable times. To the extent of even abusing them. But when the reality hit me and same thing came back to me I realized the seriousness of it. And it hit me so hard that I quit this horrible habit of JUDGING. In a recent conversation with a friend, what I realized is that we tend to judge others just because their behavior towards us changes completely ignoring the fact that we once knew the same person very well. We also judge people or situations by what people tells us which is basically being influenced. And being influenced is a sign of how dumb we can be. I have read this somewhere – Each one of us is fighting a battle. And according to me it’s to the point. Each one is surely fighting a battle within or with the people around. And if we stop judging it might lessen the efforts required for the whole “battle”.

The end result of all this is, and what I would like to convey is that before passing a judgment about something or someone we should try and understand how and why is it that thing the way it is. It would surely make our life peaceful and way better for the people living around us!