Love for DANCE

Every person has one such passion in life which he treasures and loves till the end. It refers to any form of art. Dance is the one for me. Dancing is something that occupies a very special space in my life. I have never ending and ever growing love for it. Dancing has been a passion ever since I was a kid which is preferred over anything, any given day without a second thought. It is something that gives me infinite happiness, in the real sense.

What started as a forced routine only grew to become a source of happiness to me. The one and only person who is responsible for my love for dance, is my mom. She was the first backing force to take me on this amazing journey of classical dance, because of her own liking for dance. I started learning dance in a real professional manner from the age of 7. Bharatanatyam is the form that I started to learn from my honorable guru Smt. Lata Surendran. The thought of learning a classical form of dance disturbed me at that age because I thought it was boring in comparison to the Bollywood and western form of dances. But, as I started to learn it, I developed a different love for it which has only grown till now.  Back then I knew nothing about classical dance all I knew was I was enjoying those class sessions and it was making me happy and letting me to learn new things. The dance practices before a show, the process of setting up the whole act was so much. It’s a sheer myth that classical from of dance or music is boring, in fact it gives you pleasure and a sense of peace once you start to understand it.

Dance, may it be any form, it gives me happiness. It puts life in me. Also a good piece of dance performance can make my day, literally. This amazing journey of dance has given me the opportunity to visit different places, meet different kinds of people and befriend them. It has also given me the chance to be under the supervision of great classical dancers and share the stage with them. It has been more than an over-whelming journey for me till now. All I know is, I love dance to bits and pieces and it would only grow to no limits.

In Love? Be So!

LOVE! Seems to be a really strong word. A word with a lot of depth and an equally strong meaning. Love has various relationships attached to it. It can be parental love, love between two friends, sibling love, love for one’s pet, anything and everything to call it. And all of these relationships are eternally pure. Being in love and living up to it, is considered a task. Like literally! But why so? Isn't love supposed to be a simple, usual feeling?! Which is just meant to be felt! Of course opinions differ. Every single person in this universe has a different perception about love. Past experiences and expectations lead to these perceptions. Nothing right or wrong in it. Because at the end, it is how and what you feel for a person. And that is what really matters.

In this fast pace life that we live, some of us tend to follow the trend of “variety is the spice of life”. Which involves dating every other person possible in the name of “love”. Isn't that an insult to the whole idea of love? It’s like fooling your own self rather than anybody in this world. And fooling oneself can be the most horrible thing one can do.

The kind of love that I would like to speak about is the love between two individuals. Not that I know a lot about love or I can define it that I am dedicating a whole blog post to it but something that I genuinely felt like expressing and sharing. To me, love is just caring for someone in a whole special way. Having this little soft corner for a person and cherishing it in the manner that we have not done for anybody else.  What I have specifically heard is that, love is hard. I don’t know why people tag it to be hard and hurting. It is such a beautiful feeling. It’s like just one single person has the ability to take you to this whole new happy space still making you realize about the reality of life. Also what I think is, you can’t just fall in love. It is a process. Honestly, according to me, this ‘love at first sight’ is a crap! You can’t just fall for someone. I mean you can have a crush or by far just like someone on seeing them for the first time. But can’t fall in love with them. Loving someone means accepting them with all their faults and wounds. Trusting and having faith. We can only love a person when we get to know them. If we say that we love someone, we should have the ability and strength to stick to them through every given situation. Because life is not easy. It’s like supporting that one person through thick and thin, loving them and nurturing the bond that is shared with them. Showcasing your love to the world for that special someone is not at all necessary, but making that one person feel special and loved is all that is needed. Having said that, I don’t mean that love is a child’s play. Not at all. When two people come together, fights and misunderstandings are ought to come up. Everything can’t be good and happy all the time. If that’s the case, then it’s superficial. But resolving those fights and understanding each other makes the bond of love stronger.

So, if you think you found that person of love then I think you should keep them for life. Because, if love is not the best feeling, I don’t know what is?!

Being Judgmental? DON’T BE!

Judging someone? Spare a minute and think of the fact that the opposite person might be doing the same about you and the way you might feel when that same person voices out his thoughts. Scary? It sometimes is. Knowing, unknowingly we become so self-centered and start judging people as if we own the whole right of it. But trust me it is not a very good thing to indulge in as not all of us are cool enough to take the comments and judgments positively when they are concerned about us.

The worst aspect of being judgmental is that we comment about things which we are partially or completely unaware of. I mean, what’s the whole deal about judging something that we don’t even know about? And the funny part is, we are the first one’s to judge someone or a situation but when people judge us, we get all offensive. Is it even legit enough to do so?! This is the question we should ask ourselves before judging anything.

More often than not people try to judge a person and try to question his/her character. Why to do such a pity act when we have better things to do in life? Is our life so boring or are we so freaking jobless?! And if at all we judge a person why is that most of the times only negative comments are passed about a person. Why can’t it be the other way round? Why can’t we try to understand that person’s situation and help him/her in some way.

To be very honest even I have been judgmental towards people and situations, for innumerable times. To the extent of even abusing them. But when the reality hit me and same thing came back to me I realized the seriousness of it. And it hit me so hard that I quit this horrible habit of JUDGING. In a recent conversation with a friend, what I realized is that we tend to judge others just because their behavior towards us changes completely ignoring the fact that we once knew the same person very well. We also judge people or situations by what people tells us which is basically being influenced. And being influenced is a sign of how dumb we can be. I have read this somewhere – Each one of us is fighting a battle. And according to me it’s to the point. Each one is surely fighting a battle within or with the people around. And if we stop judging it might lessen the efforts required for the whole “battle”.

The end result of all this is, and what I would like to convey is that before passing a judgment about something or someone we should try and understand how and why is it that thing the way it is. It would surely make our life peaceful and way better for the people living around us!

                              Unsaid, yet conveyed.

ACTIONS! They indeed speak louder than words. They are an element which cannot be misunderstood, no matter what. The fact is, for once even words can cease to fail but actions, can never be ignored. Actions are the result of our inner feelings which can’t be expressed through words. And sometimes they are the best way to convey something. It isn't always necessary to verbally express your feelings. Actions or gestures can do wonders!

In this chaos around us and the daily hustle bustle of life we often forget that we have dear one’s who deserve to be appreciated. Only indulging into mere conversation with people doesn’t help but expressing your feelings through gestures is equally important. For instances - A simple smile can reduce so many pains in life. A hug while we are feeling low can sooth us in such a way that it gives us the strength to fight all the problems. A pat on the back from our parents on achieving something good makes us happy. What are these? They are mere gesture but they convey a lot through them without saying a word and at the same time manage to make us happy and give us a lot of strength. This doesn’t mean that gestures covey only positive expressions. Feeling of aggression and disappointment when expressed through actions create a long lasting impact. Words said in anger can still be forgotten but aggressive actions are hard to forget.

So, the next time that you react to something know the fact that the people will still know what you want to convey in spite of you not saying anything!

Words are powerful but Actions are ever lasting and much more impactful. 

Let Go!

  There comes a time in life where changes have to be accepted, no matter how difficult they seem to be. Sometimes these changes are forced while sometimes you yourself accept them. But in midst of these changes, you lose out on relationships, and certain other things and also become a better person. CHANGE is the only constant thing, which is inevitable!

In my accordance the only way to cope up with these changes is letting go of something’s, for the good. Letting go is one of the hardest things to do but sometimes it is best for some odd reason. Letting go doesn’t always mean you stop thinking about it, but you try not allow it to affect you anymore. When we let go of people, it becomes kind of traumatic to us but time does it all. Time heals everything and sorts things out. Patience is what we need to have. We don’t always get what we want. Adjustments are a part of life, which make our living peaceful to some extent. Being in a state of denial is not a very happy space to live in. The more we try to deny things, the harder reality strike’s us. Accepting things the way they are and moving on in life is something that we all should learn. Also, I believe, the more you try to restrict things and try to keep them in your control, the more you to tend to lose them!

I truly believe in the phrase - “Let go. If it comes back to you, it is yours. If it doesn’t, it was never yours.”

If something really belongs to you it’ll find its way to stay in your life or else it’ll find its way out when the time is right. So, stay strong and LET GO! 

Too CONFUSED, to CHOOSE!

       Too CONFUSED, to CHOOSE!

Making a choice has always been a difficult task for me. Be it carrier, relationships or for that matter a goddamn DRESS. Having too many options and selecting one among them makes me sick. Not just me, but probably most of the people face the same thing as I do or I should say most of the teenagers like me surely do. That’s doesn’t mean it lessens any of my stress but forces me to think why does this problem and confusion arise in the first place.

According to what I have experienced till now, there has always been a conflict between WHAT SHOULD BE DONE and WHAT IS SUPPOSED TO BE DONE. Or to put in simpler words there is a conflict between our heart and brain. Sometimes something out of nowhere catches our attention and we fall for it. It starts dominating our thoughts. Then suddenly an equally good thing comes in picture, probably better and then the first thing which we noticed doesn’t seem as good to us as the second one. But we still feel like clinging on to it. Sometimes it happens that you get a bad experience from a person whatsoever may be the reason but you still you feel like talking to that person. CONFUSION!!! And this makes us go all mad.  Ignoring the positive and negative aspect of every situation, what keeps me awestruck is the fact that unless and until we start realizing the importance of a particular thing or situation it is already too late to make things proper. That’s where the whole “confusion” part starts!                                                       There is always a pressure on us by our family, peers, colleagues and most of the times we are influenced by the decisions they try to imprint on us less realizing what is right for our own good and what not. Listening to people is good but allowing them to make decisions for us is a very  bad option. As I keep thinking about various things happening in my life what I realize is that in the chaos of people giving me advice and trying to do good something for me I have forgotten to listen to my OWNSELF! This surely makes me uncomfortable but somehow also gives me the strength to pick up all the scattered parts and take a stand for myself.

So, next time that you face a confusion and have to choose, don’t forget to listen to your inner voice before listening to anybody else. Because you are the perfect person to choose the right thing for yourself!

                       

     Take Pride In Being A Women

A women plays a crucial role in our society. Her presence and absence both, make a huge difference to all the people around her. Inspite of knowing this some people still tend to disrespect her in every way possible.

In today’s age we talk about feminism and man-women equality, but amongst all this women are still not free or rather safe in our own country. Before talking about female equality and other such related issues and blaming others for not respecting women, we first need to realize what efforts do we take on our part to give a women the space she needs and deserves.

Its not that every guy takes a women for granted but the truth is most of them do. Their “ego’s” are more important to them than anything in this world. Being a man’s slave is all that we are expected. And as self-giving as we women are slowly start forgetting our own value. This is were we start to destroy ourselves! Though the condition of women living in cities has changed, women from remote areas still suffer a lot. Being a women myself I feel, changes can be brought only if we women stay confident about gaining the rights we deserve. We need to be our own saviours. Also, not forgetting that this world without us wouldn’t be the same place as it is today.

As a 19 year old I don’t think my views would make a lot of changes in the thought process of people but I would make sure that atleast people who are around me know what I think and what are my views. That will atleast make some difference to my life. No matter how young or old we are, we should never fail to voice out our opinions. Telling people what we feel would make our identity grow stronger. Also unity will surely bring changes. If we women unite and decide to fight back the n number of sufferings, then nobody can win against us irrespective of the power they have.

So, all the women out there, stay beautiful and always be proud of the fact that you were born as a women and believe that you are among one of those amazing creations of god!